You can be lonely in a city full of people. I think that's one of the quietest pains of modern life — surrounded, but not known. You have contacts, not friends. You have a feed, not a table. And some nights you sit in your apartment in Rochester, NY, scrolling through everybody else's togetherness, wondering why yours hasn't happened yet. I've sat in that loneliness myself. There have been seasons of my life — new city, new calling, everything unfamiliar — where I knew hundre